THE EFFECTIVENESS OF ISLAMIC PREMARRIAGE COUNSELING TO READINESS FOR HOUSEHOLD LIFE
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https://doi.org/10.31958/jsk.v5i2.4730Keywords:
Counseling, Premarital, Readiness, IslamAbstract
The dominant problem experienced by prospective brides who will marry is the low level of readiness to enter married life, if neglected, this condition will have an impact on satisfaction after marriage. This study aims to examine the effectiveness of Islamic premarital counseling on increasing married life readiness. The research method used is experimental, especially the one group pretest and posttest design. The research population is prospective brides who have been registered at the Tanah Datar Regency Religious Affairs Office. The research sample was 8 people with the criteria indicated that the level of readiness for married life was low. Data were collected using a household readiness scale, with data analysis using the paired samples t test through the SPSS computer program. release 20. The results of the study found that Islamic premarital counseling is effective in increasing the readiness of married life of the prospective bride and groom. The increase occurred in every dimension of readiness for married life, namely mental, spiritual, social and financial readiness.References
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Casquarelli, E. J., & Fallon, K. M. (2011). Nurturing the Relationships of All Couples: Integrating Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Concerns into Premarital Education and Counseling Programs. The Journal of Humanistic Counseling, 50(2), 149–160.
https://doi.org/10.1002/j.2161-1939.2011.tb00114.x
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Irman, I., Murisal, M., Syafwar, F., Silvianetri, S., Zubaidah, Z., & Yeni, P. (2020). Membangun Kesadaran Spritual melalui Konseling Berbasis Surau dalam Pengembangan Pariwisata. Islamic Counseling: Jurnal Bimbingan Konseling Islam, 4(1), 51. https://doi.org/10.29240/jbk.v4i1.1421
Irman, I., Saari, C. Z., Silvianetri, S., Rajab, K., & Zalnur, M. (2019). The Effect of Zikir Relaxation in Counseling to Reduce Internet Addiction. Al-Ta Lim Journal, 26(1), 1–11. https://doi.org/10.15548/jt.v26i1.547
Irman, I., & Elvira, N. (2015). Pengaruh Konseling Pranikah Solution Focused Terhadap Peningkatan Konsep Keluarga Sakinah Calon Pengantin. Proceding IAIN Batusangkar. 1(1), 135-157.
https://ojs.iainbatusangkar.ac.id/ojs/index.php/proceedings/article/view/685
Kazdin, A. E. (2003) Reseaarch Design In Clinical Psychology. Boston: Allyn and Bascon
Kenedi, G. (2005). Model Konseling Pranikah Berorientasi Pengembangan Konsep Diri (Disertasi). Bandung: Universitas Pendidikan Indonesia.
Kerlinger. (2006). Asas–Asas Penelitian Behaviour. Edisi 3, Cetakan 7. Yogyakarta: Gadjah Mada University Press.
Krivickas, K.M, Sanchez, L.A, Kenney, C.T, Wright, J.D. (2010) .Fiery wives and icy husbands: Pre-marital counseling and covenant marriage as buffers against effects of childhood abuse on gendered marital communication?. Social Science Research, 39. 700–714.
Karim, H. A. (2020). Manajemen Pengelolaan Bimbingan Pranikah Dalam Mewujudkan Keluarga Sakinah Mawaddah Wa Rahmah. Jurnal Bimbingan Penyuluhan Islam, 1(2), 321. https://doi.org/10.32332/jbpi.v1i2.1721
Latipun. (2010). Psikologi Konseling. Malang: Universitas Muhammadiyah Malang Press.
Licata, N. (2005). Should Premarital Counseling Be Mandatory As A Requisite To Obtaining A Marriage License? Family Court Review, 40(4), 518–532. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.174-1617.2002.tb00860.x
Lokadata. (2021). Perceraian di Indonesia terus meningkat. https://lokadata.id/artikel/perceraian-di-indonesia-terus-meningkat
Meadows, M. E., & Taplin, J. F. (1973). Premarital Counseling with College Students: A Promising Triad. In Counseling and Accountability (pp. 101–109). Elsevier.
https://doi.org/10.1016/B978-0-08-017029-9.50014-5
Mubasyaroh, M. (2017). Konseling Pra Nikah Dalam Mewujudkan Keluarga Bahagia (Studi Pendekatan Humanistik Carl R. Rogers). KONSELING RELIGI Jurnal Bimbingan Konseling Islam, 7(2), 1. https://doi.org/10.21043/kr.v7i2.2128
Muluhya Keverenge, E., Kipnusu, R. C., Tarus, P., & Karimi, J. (2020). The relationship between premarital counselling and marital harmony among families in Lugari, Kakamega County, Kenya. Counselling and Psychotherapy Research, 20(3), 556–561. https://doi.org/10.1002/capr.12319
Murray, C. E., & Murray, T. L. (2004). Solution‐Focused Premarital Counseling: Helping Couples Build A Vision For Their Marriage. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 30(3), 349–358. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1752-0606.2004.tb01245.x
Musnamar, T. (1992). Dasar-dasar Konseptual Bimbingan dan Konseling Islami. Yokyakarta: UII Prees.
Najah, U., Desyanty, E. S., & Widianto, E. (2021). Kontribusi Program Pembinaan Calon Pengantin Terhadap Kesiapan Berumah Tangga Bagi Masyarakat Kota Malang. Aksara: Jurnal Ilmu Pendidikan Nonformal, 7(3), 1303. https://doi.org/10.37905/aksara.7.3.1303-1312.2021
Nelson, T.S & Kelley, L. (2001). Solution-focused couple group. Journal of Systemic Therapies, 20, 47-66.
Rahmah, P.Y. (2018). Kesiapan Membangun Rumah Tangga (Studi Kasus Remaja Putri K-Popers Kota Malang). Malang: Universitas Islam Negeri Maulana Malik Ibrahim.
Rais, I. (2014). Tingginya Angka Cerai Gugat (Khulu’) di Indonesia: Analisis Kritis terhadap Penyebab dan Alternatif Solusi Mengatasinya. Jurnal Al’ Adalah.12(1),191-204. https://doi.org/10.24042/adalah.v12i1.183
Sakdiyah., Halimatus, E., & Muallifah, M. (2021). Best practice konseling pra-nikah berbasis integrasi Psikologi & Islam menuju keluarga sakinah, mawaddah, warahmah. UIN Maliki Press.
Schilling, E. A. (2010). Premarital Counseling. In I. B. Weiner & W. E. Craighead (Eds.), The Corsini Encyclopedia of Psychology (p. corpsy0701). John Wiley & Sons, Inc. https://doi.org/10.1002/9780470479216.corpsy0701
Scott, H.V. (2012). Reducing the Divorce Rate Among Cristians in America Premarital Counseling A Prerequisite for Marriage. University Baptist Theological, Press. USA.
Silliman, B., & Schumm, W. R. (2004). Adolescents’ perceptions of marriage and premarital couple education. Family Relations, 53(5), 513–520. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.0197-6664.2004.00060.x
Stahmann, R. F. (2000). Premarital counselling: A focus for family therapy. Journal of Family Therapy, 22(1), 104–116. https://doi.org/10.1111/1467-6427.00140
Stanley, S. M. (2001). Making A Case for Premarital Education*. Family Relations, 50(3), 272–280.
https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1741-3729.2001.00272.x
Stanley, S. M., Markman, H. J., Prado, L. M., Olmos-Gallo, P. A., Tonelli, L., St. Peters, M., Leber, B. D., Bobulinski, M., Cordova, A., & Whitton, S. W. (2001). Community-Based Premarital Prevention: Clergy and Lay Leaders on the Front Lines*. Family Relations, 50(1), 67–76.
Sullivan, K. T., Pasch, L. A., Cornelius, T., & Cirigliano, E. (2004). Predicting Participation in Premarital Prevention Programs: The Health Belief Model and Social Norms. Family Process, 43(2), 175–193. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.04302004.x
Shihab, Q.M. (2006). Menabur Pesan Ilahi. Jakarta: Lentera Hati.
Stahmann, R.F & Hiebert, W.J. (1980). Premarital counseling. Lexington, MA: Lexington Books.
Stanley, S.M. (2000). Making a case for premarital education. an paper presented at the Revitalizing Marriage Conference at Brigham Young University. Brigham: Family Studies Center.
Triningtyas, D. A., & Muhayati, S. (2017). Konseling Pranikah: Sebuah Upaya Meredukasi Budaya Pernikahan Dini di Kecamatan Pulung Kabupaten Ponorogo. JKI (Jurnal Konseling Indonesia), 3(1), 28-32.
https://doi.org/10.21067/jki.v3i1.1976
Undang-Undang No.1 Tahun 1974 Tentang Perkawinan.
Vincent, B. (2008). Toward a Premarital Counselling Model. The School of Relegion ang Theology Faculty of Humanities, Development and social Sciences, The University of Kwazulu-Natal Press.
Willis, S.S. (2008). Konseling Keluarga. Bandung: Penerbit Alfabeta.
Wright, H. N., & Wright, H. N. (1992). The premarital counseling handbook. Moody Press.
Wright, H. N. (2003). Before You Say “I Do” Devotional. Oregon: Harvest House Publisher.
Wright, H. N., & Roberts, W. (2019). Before you say “I do.” Harvest House Publishers. http://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&scope=site&db=nlebk&db=nlabk&AN=2032104
Zulkifli. (1987). Psikologi Perkembangan. Bandung: Remaja Rosada Karya.
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Irman, I., Silvianetri, S., Zubaidah, Z., Yeni, P., Gusria, W., Usman, H., & Siraj, R. (2021). THE EFFECTIVENESS OF ISLAMIC PREMARRIAGE COUNSELING TO READINESS FOR HOUSEHOLD LIFE. Alfuad: Jurnal Sosial Keagamaan, 5(2), 96–111. https://doi.org/10.31958/jsk.v5i2.4730
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